Sustainable Happiness Can’t be Tied to the Material and Transitory
I’ve come to the conclusion that happiness should not be tied to material or transitory experiences or things. But mine has been for as long as I can remember. This is why I don’t seem to be able to find sustainable happiness. If your happiness is tied to some thing than you lose it when the newness of that thing wears off. If its tied to an experience, experiences are also fleeting, and you tend to spend your time remembering the past, or gearing up for a future experience, but not enjoying the present.
So, financially speaking, can financial freedom bring you happiness? The simple answer is no. What it can bring, though, is more options to do what you want with your most precious asset: TIME.
I have come to realize that my entire life has been filled with these transitory or passing forms of happiness. I’ve known this, but haven’t been able to articulate it or figure out the how of changing that pattern.
The only thing that I can think of is to tackle my lifestyle, from financial education, to simplifying and organizing, and see where it leaves me. As The Happiness Project says, “Outer order contributes to inner calm.”
Simplifying my life is a top priority in order to get some of that precious resource, time, back. Making intentional choices towards a more education financial future is also a good step in the right direction. However, in the end, finding happiness doesn’t lie in things or experiences, but in your overall mental state of mind. Is more meditation in my future?
what brings me (temporary) joy
- Receiving a Thoughtful Gift
- New Stuff (clothes, distractions, stuff)
- Making Something (crafts, art, design)
- Spending Quality Time with Family and Friends
- Simple lifestyle choices
- Plain old fun
So many of these above things are harder to come by in my financially frugal lifestyle: shopping, travel, TIME for anything fun. So, I need to find ways to find happiness without them. This is a core-shifting change for me.
As an excerpt from a posting on the PositivityBlog states, it is possible to attain positive emotions, which in turn can help with finding happiness through the things that bring you joy.
As we all know, when we have a big goal, it helps to break it down into smaller pieces. If we think of happiness as an overarching emotional state that is created by the presence of other, positive emotions, the process of achieving happiness becomes less daunting.
Joy, contentedness, love, interest, and satisfaction are some of the positive emotions that lead us to feel happy. The more we experience these positive emotions, the happier we’ll be.